Hey mum! I want you to know I love having a new baby brother. He is so sweet to look at and he has the softest skin!
At Flourishing Mothers, we were very honoured to be part of the panel event discussing recent research into new mums and celebrating the role of midwives leading up to International Midwives Day on 5th May 2017.
Our role in this discussion was to help mums understand the psychological changes we experience with having a baby.
Motherhood tends to be talked about in glowingly positive terms. It is described as a beautiful, natural part of life that is all sweetness and light. The truth is however, that some mums struggle to adapt to the new realities of motherhood and have difficulty developing a strong feeling of “bonding” with their newborn baby.
Most babies will have a long breastfeed straight after birth and then will likely fall asleep for 6-8 hours. This is the perfect time for you to have a well-earned rest too as it may be the last time you have a long uninterrupted sleep for a long time!
Hi mum! I know you are in the middle of a wonderful dream, enjoying a sunny vacation on an exotic island and yes, that seems to be me in your dream, perfectly silent, wearing some totally spotless designer outfit. I am swinging quietly in a white baby hammock floating gently over a beautiful lush tropical garden. It is so quiet mummy – where is everyone?
Pregnancy has three trimesters, but newborn babies are so small and vulnerable that for them, the first few months of life outside the womb are truly a “4th trimester” of pregnancy. For new mums, welcome to this new trimester of motherhood!
One of the biggest preoccupations for new mums and dads is trying to figure out how to get a baby to sleep. It is true that infants sleep a lot – but not always when you want them to! Some babies sleep through the night from an early age, while others are restless, irritable sleepers who require constant soothing and breastfeeding throughout the night.
It is a fact of modern motherhood that so much of our daily life is infused with feelings of guilt. A word that has such negative connotation, guilt can be negative and manipulative, and even paralyzing if you allow guilt to dictate your daily decisions. In fact, too much guilt can become not just a “feeling,” but also an all-encompassing way of life.
Motherhood really is a different experience for every mum.
In April, Medela conducted a survey with over 4000 mums. Some of the main findings were that mums no longer turned to their mums as a first point of call for advice on pregnancy and that 48% of mums have experienced the “baby blues” at some point.